Erica Scott passed along an interesting challenge (suggested by Six of the Best and found here) of picking three of your saddest memories and then three of your happiest. This little challenge is actually a lot more difficult than one would think even for someone who is only 26. While trying to come up with memories or moments of being sad in my life, I've noticed something...quite a few of those sad times led to some very happy times, so does that mean they don't really count as sad times? That they weren't really all that bad? Not at all. What it does mean is that you have to take the good with the bad because all of it has helped make you who you are today. You cannot have one without the other because you wouldn't be able to appreciate your happiest times without having to make it through your saddest times. In those rough moments, you have to remember that things will get better and it is good to also think about everything you have been through to be who and where you are today. So after reading my three and three, please feel free to continue the challenge either by commenting here or posting on your own blog!
Three Saddest Memories (in order of sad to saddest):
1) We moved around a lot when I was younger, so it really came as no surprise when we had to pick up and move after my ninth grade year. However, we had lived in that location for seven years. I had friends (or so I thought) and already knew almost everyone in the little town, but now we have to move. At the time, I was devastated and scared to have to move to a new location where I didn't know anyone.
2) (I know this one is very vague.) During this summer, I went through a few moments of thinking I had lost everything. There was a bunch of miscommunication, hurt feelings, and just general stupid shit going on. I was crushed and ready for everything to just end. At the time, I thought I wasn't worth the trouble.
3) RIP TF III. We lost my fiancé's father on September 20th of this year. This was a devastating blow to everyone. He accepted me for who I am and he always expressed how much he appreciated me for stepping up for his grandsons. I can't believe he's gone. It still feels like he is on vacation and just hasn't made it home yet. I know it isn't possible. I've seen and touched the clothes he was wearing when it happened, and we also have some of his ashes now. It still isn't real though. I try not to allow myself to feel the grief because it just hurts too much. I've paid for the additional medical examiner reports, so we are waiting on those to arrive. Maybe then I will have some closure.
Three Happiest Memories (in order from happy to happiest):
1) I was the drum major for my high school band during my senior year. I loved the experience and also vowed never to do it again. I grew a lot that year and became more confident in my abilities to be a leader.
2) During my second summer in college, I was accepted into an awesome NASA internship program. I met some amazing new friends and spent an awesome 10 weeks from home. The experience was so amazing that I went back three more times. During the last two summers, I was employed as the operations manager for the program where I was the one in control of creating a memorable experience for the interns under my watch. So, for my final summer, I managed to get all of us down to Cape Canaveral to see the final shuttle launch! Now, that was an experience I'm sure they'll never forget!
3) As with any relationship, we do have our ups and downs and disagreements. But, without a doubt, I consider some of my happiest moments to be those that I spend with my fiancé. He knows everything about me. I've never been more open and honest with anyone in my life. We are there for each other. He is my best friend, my lover, and my future husband. He has also promised me a very sore bottom when the next available opportunity presents itself. :-) LOL!
Speaking of LOL...
The ninth annual Love our Lurkers Days are almost here! On November 12th & 13th, everyone is welcome to join in and comment around blogland. All of us bloggers enjoy sharing part of ourselves with our readers and on these days we would love it if you would leave a comment. You don't have to say much, just a little, "Hello!" will do or you can provide your own answers to the challenge mentioned earlier. I am definitely very excited to be able to participate myself this year both as a blogger and as a lurker!
For more information, please visit Hermione's Heart.
Hello, I just wanted to stop in to say hello. I do not know if I could recall the saddest memories...saying good-bye, lost friendships, feeling the pain of others...all those experiences sad or other were positive because they helped me to grow and learn and hope and are part of my being...as for happiest...saying "I do" to my husband at our wedding and knowing it would be forever, giving birth to my two children and holding them in my arms for the first time, and every time I dance for the pure joy of it... Thank-you for sharing...hope to visit again... Hugs
ReplyDeleteHi Terp,
DeleteThank you for stopping by and sharing! I'm sure we will visit each other from time to time. :-) Hugs back!
Hello Jay,
ReplyDeleteHappy LOL Day to you. Thanks for stopping by my blog.
One of the saddest memories is my father passing away and that he didn't get to meet his grandson. They would have been best friends:) One of my happiest was when my son was born.
Love,
Ronnie
xx
Hi Ronnie!
DeleteI love visiting your blog! Thank you for visiting and sharing here as well! :-)
Love,
Jay
Happy LOL Day. Thanks for joining us.
ReplyDeleteMy saddest memories are of having to send various beloved dogs to the Rainbow Bridge. My happiest one is the first time Ron kissed me.
Hugs,
Hermione
Hermione,
DeleteThank you for carrying on the tradition and hosting this year's LOL Days!
All I can picture is the first kiss from the Harry Potter characters, Ron and Hermione, and it makes me giggle.
Hugs,
Jay
I'm new to your blog, but thought I would say hello!
ReplyDeleteDF
DF - Welcome and thank you for stopping by! :-)
DeleteIt always make me so proud when I read the stories of people like yourselves who willingly put their own lives on hold to take care of vulnerable people. No sads...just happy for you and the care you are giving the boys.
ReplyDeleteI hope you are able to visit the garage more often and that the results are as you want them
Don - thank you for your encouragement and support. It means a lot. Unfortunately the garage/game room is off limits as a spanking room until the parents find a place of their own.
DeleteHappy LOL Days Jay...I'm new to your blog but will be back later to visit a bit more.
ReplyDeleteBlessings...
Cat
Hi Cat,
DeleteThank you for stopping by! Hope to see you again soon!
~Jay
Thanks for dropping by and LOL to you too ;)
ReplyDeleteDJ Black
DJ - Thank you for visiting!
DeleteFirst time here....but i will be back...just had one of my saddest...losing my mom...one of my happiest, becoming Master's.
ReplyDeletehugs abby
Abby - I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. Thank you for stopping by and I hope to see you again soon!
DeleteHugs,
Jay
As abby said, this is my first visit here and I will be back. I'll have to think about the 3 and 3 concept and may steal the idea for my own blog one of these days.
ReplyDeleteHappy LOL Day
Leigh - It took me a bit to come up with my 3 & 3. Feel free to use it on your blog. :-) Thanks for visiting and hope to see you again!
DeleteThanks for sharing your memories with us, and happy LOL9 to you! Hope to see you around for many more. :-)
ReplyDeleteThank you, Erica! LOL9 has been an exciting experience! Can't wait for the next one and many more! :-)
DeleteHello Jay from Tim ,best spanks.
ReplyDeleteTim - thanks for stopping by!
DeleteCongratulations on being employed by NASA, that must have been quite an experience. One might say you are ' Out of this World', my beautiful 'spanko' lady friend. Thanks for sharing. Seasons Greetings. And thank you for honoring me, by answering my questionnaire.
ReplyDeleteSix - Thanks! Those summer I spent with NASA were truly amazing! Thank you and I hope you had a wonderful holiday season as well.
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