Thursday, January 23, 2020

Browsing through old files...

I’ve been browsing through old photos and notes on my iPhone recently. I have photos dating back to 2011 and notes back to 2013. I thought that maybe it was time to start deleting and/or archiving things - things I didn’t want to accidentally come across that would remind me of my ex.
I guess now is as good a time as any to inform my returning readers that Tom and I broke up on May 8, 2019 after being together since February 27, 2013. A glimpse of some happier days from our time together is captured in the posts on this blog from 2014-2016. You are welcome to revisit or browse through the archive. You might be asking why I don’t just download and delete these old reminders of the past. Well, I guess that’s because the posts do hold a lot of good memories and feelings that I don’t want to forget. In addition to real experiences, I also have a fair amount of stories and scenarios that I wished could have happened. I think I owe it to myself to remember what I wanted then and what I still might want now.
Anyway, on a much lighter note, I wanted to share something I came across that actually has nothing to do with me, except for the part where I saved this particular blog post in my Notes app. It was posted back in 2015. I honestly didn’t remember saving this at all, until I went back and read it. And, wow, I definitely remembered why I saved it! This post has one of my favorite stories in it! So, now, I absolutely must give a shout-out to my wonderful friend Erica and encourage all of you to take a break and go read this. Erica Scott’s “Just Ask Me”


  1. I am so sorry, Jay. As you know, I am in a similar boat. My now ex-guy and I broke up in May as well. We had been a couple of eight years. It's tough, especially for someone like me who is nostalgic and loves someone deeply.

    I still have moments of sadness. However, I recently have found someone special. We are taking it slow, but it does feel right.

    Things do get better. Time helps, as does support. If you need to reach out, I'm all eyes and ears.

    Take care,

  2. I’m glad you’ve found someone special and are taking it slow.

    I have been having a lot of trouble with allowing myself to feel anything. What I do feel is mostly anxiety, heartache (not because I want Tom back at all) and depression. I bottle emotions in an effort to deal with what is in front of me, but then I never go back and unpack the emotions. (sigh)


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