tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post2879262121393138990..comments2023-10-31T08:21:01.088-05:00Comments on Relativity - Everything in life is relative.: First Household RuleJayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18040670158317646418noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post-56824008092564361222015-03-04T07:06:52.215-06:002015-03-04T07:06:52.215-06:00Lillyanna - I do like knowing what the consequence...Lillyanna - I do like knowing what the consequence is to a particular action - in this case the number of swats, and I definitely prefer it being dealt with immediately as opposed to just before bed. You are right - after that much time is has gone by then it is either over (no longer feel guilty) or you are both far too upset about it (been stewing in negative thoughts all day).Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18040670158317646418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post-88291863456982538372015-03-03T09:20:54.712-06:002015-03-03T09:20:54.712-06:00I like the idea of a set number of strikes for an ...I like the idea of a set number of strikes for an infraction. Kind of like immediate swats from Learning DD. We have done it in the past but tried the swats at bedtime and by that time we were either over it or really irritated with one another because things escalated. So even though we have kids I think immediately doing the swats would be very beneficial. Quick and quiet implements. I think those few swats are often enough to reset our mindsets. Glad it's working for you. Thanks for sharing:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02730917849600775588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post-31138846802386780692015-02-05T08:36:29.155-06:002015-02-05T08:36:29.155-06:00Clara - I think my biggest problem is that I feel ...Clara - I think my biggest problem is that I feel he is not listening to me...and honestly he may not be at that moment. He has a habit of replaying what I have said after we talk and then makes a decision after he has thought about it. However, in the heat of the moment, I want to interrupt because his response tells me he wasn't listening and then I repeat myself (which he also doesn't like) and it turns into a vicious cycle. Some how I have to learn to be more patient with him and trust that he is listening to me.Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18040670158317646418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post-60684839404772455372015-02-04T11:51:39.643-06:002015-02-04T11:51:39.643-06:00Jay, this is a good rule to have. Communication is...Jay, this is a good rule to have. Communication is so important and taking the time to listen to each other will definitely bring you two closer together. Sometimes its hard when you feel strongly about something but just take a breath and make yourself listen. I bet you'll find out he wants to hear your side once you have allowed him to finish his thoughts. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post-80613308946746125662015-02-03T18:45:49.498-06:002015-02-03T18:45:49.498-06:00SGT - I definitely agree especially when I compare...SGT - I definitely agree especially when I compare it to what we've been doing. I'd much rather handle it this way.<br /><br />Erica - I just knew you were going to ask that! LOL. He told me to tell him when he interrupts me and that he will actively work to change it. Neither of us want me to spank him. Hahahahahaha!Jayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18040670158317646418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post-80934770895699837702015-02-03T11:41:21.225-06:002015-02-03T11:41:21.225-06:00Harrumph! What happens when HE interrupts? ;-)Harrumph! What happens when HE interrupts? ;-)Ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02230915556455020371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2494448915909604761.post-66698524294873429172015-02-03T10:59:09.823-06:002015-02-03T10:59:09.823-06:00Sounds like a reasonable way to handle rule breaki...Sounds like a reasonable way to handle rule breaking. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com